To Sext or To Have Sex?

Sexting, most people do it, I don't. It reminds me of high school or my freshmen year of college where I thought a boy would like me if I gave him that sort of sexual attention, but I've grown out of that faze. Today when a guy attempts to sext me, it's an automatic turn off. It feels like I'm reading and then copy writing a soft core porn script. In my mind it's humorous that someone would think that the person on the other line is actually sitting there masturbating to whatever sexual context the texter is sending. Maybe I'm just biased because I find myself to be a more visual person, and prefer porn. Most women who I've spoken to watch porn, and even the few who say they enjoy sexting men, don't say they actually get off to it. So what's the point then, to feel more intimate and attached to someone? Isn't that what phone sex is or cyber sex or real sex is for?

Now don't get me wrong, I understand long distance relationships suck, and sometimes you get really horny and you really miss your other half. But to be honest I'd rather get a, "I miss your beautiful face or My pillow still smells like you," text, instead of a, "What would you do to me if I were in your bed naked or send me a dirty photo," text any day. Maybe deep down I'm more of a romantic or maybe I just enjoy the built up tension that irrupts when you're actually skin on skin opposed to waiting on a response via the phone. One of my girlfriends, who actually approves of sexting, said something I find very interesting when discussing the topic, "Sexting is a good tease for those you don't want to touch." I had never really thought about it in that light until she said it. Though hilarious and a low blow to the ego of any guy she's sexted before, her perspective is one to consider. Personally, I probably wouldn't waste my time sexting a guy I wouldn't actually fuck, but to each his own.

I would however like to touch base on the evolution of sexting that has gone beyond the spoken word into the sending of sexy/hot/or pornographic photos of oneself to any willing receiver. It seems now a days men think that in order to woo a woman or that it is generally appropriate to ask a girl whom you barely know to send a dirty photo of herself. What makes a guy think that if she didn't have sex with you on the first night that she'd be willing to send a picture of her boobs the next? Even better is when a guy sends a photo of himself full frontal nude to a woman without warning. Unless you truly have a gorgeous penis, and I mean porn star status right color right girth right length, then it's probably not worth the send. Especially, if she's yet to see you naked. Of course I dont speak for everyone in my dislike of this sort of correspondence, but wheres the class?

I have a girlfriend, who recently split from her boyfriend of nearly a year, she was ecstatic when an American Greek God of a man asked her out to dinner. She texted me saying she was more than thrilled and I would definitely approve. However, a few hours later I get a panicked text from her, explaining that this gorgeous man had just sent her a photo of himself without warning, which she forwarded to me (another reason why sending photos to one person, usually means more than one person = bad idea). The photo was of his shirtless chest, face cropped off as well as at the waist. In both our eyes the photo was pointless, and not overly impressive. What was more unimpressive was the fact that after asking my girl to dinner the AGG thought sending a photo of his half naked body was the next step. To make matters worse when I told her to respond with, "that's hot but I can't see your face," in hopes that he would send a photo of his face, instead he responded with a full frontal image penis and all (which she forwarded to me as well). She told him, upon my advice, that he obviously had the wrong idea, and she didn't realize dinner was code for sex. He simply responded, that if she changed her mind to let him know.

What has become of modern day dating? Should a girl really assume that dinner means sex or otherwise? And if we offer you our phone number does that mean the only way you know how to text is to sext? I was told once that I was high strung because I wouldn't send a sexy photo of myself to a guy that I had known for less than 24 hours. What happened to guys respecting a classy woman or one that has some moral code? Also news flash: just because I model does not mean I will send you suggestive photos of myself. If you really want to see that seductive look in my eyes, I'm guessing since you have my number we're friends on Facebook, my ports on there, check it out. Common sense dude, don't tell me to send you a photo because you are a visual person, that's what Facebook is for, or rather a real life in person conversation. Forget sexting, come over!